Jane Doe
I have never been a fan of the Bachelor or the Bachelorette series, primarily because it promotes the fairy tale image of beautiful people meeting and falling instantly in love, getting married in a princess wedding and living happily ever after. What is billed as a "reality" series actually unfolds as one of the many childhood Barbie and Ken play dates we had so many years ago. So far I think that only the Trista and Ryan coupling has survived (although the jury is out on that one that it will last), so the casting agents should be quite happy with the results. But the point of the show is not "happily ever after", although a live wedding was the icing on the cake. What America seems obsessed with is the fantasy of infatuation and romantic love and will endure weeks of watching strangers date, face rejection, ending with a marriage proposal. This time however, as the three hour finale demonstrated, Jen disappointed the fans, but sure made a great statement for the lives of single women, finally bringing reality into the picture.
Just like in real life, she had been burned before and thankfully had learned her lesson. I am a little jaded when it comes to really beautiful people, since they tend to have a distorted sense of how life should treat them, but this blonde actually seemed to get it--infatuaion and romantic love are not sound reasons to make life long decisions, a lesson learned by Thomas Hayden Church's character in the new movie Sideways, and frequently pointed out in Dr. Phil's arm chair counseling sessions. When you consider the amount of time she actually spent with these men, I would also politely say, thanks for all the free stuff, but this is really not what I am looking for.
When it comes down to it, there is no need to rush into marriage and you are doing a service to yourself and a prospective partner to make sure you don't enter into this contractual obligation lightly. What the show does demonstrate, though, is how much fun us single women can have out there in the real world in our search for companionship.
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