There’s something about this time of year that really fires up the urge to merge.
First, there’s that pesky prehistoric hardwiring that makes us want to huddle inside our caves to safeguard ourselves against the coming darkness. Second, you can’t help but wish for a beloved with all those sappy commercials showing happy, loving couples frolicking in the snow, enjoying hot chocolate and then getting engaged. And then there’s the simple logistical element — so many parties and not an escort to be found.
Fellow singles, make a resolution right now to beat the holiday rush for partners. Here are some tips to get you on your merry way:
Makin’ a list. Checkin’ it twice.
Take an inventory of your best traits and areas in which you want to improve. Make a plan to celebrate the good points and overcome the bad ones. Then make a list of what you’re looking for in a mate and what you consider deal breakers. These exercises help you get a clearer picture of yourself and your potential partner. Having a keener focus can make it easier to find a good match.
Tip: Use this list to polish up your online dating profile, then post a new picture and pop a few emails to promising prospects.
Go out and play.
Fall and winter are great times to get outside! Check with your local Sierra Club or parks and recreation department for day hikes, ski trips and other outdoor activities.
Curl up with a good book.
Most bookstores and libraries have reading clubs organized by area of interest (creative non-fiction, romance, etc.). These groups not only expose you to great literature but also could expose you to a great mate with similar tastes.
Give to others.
Most communities offer some kind of Thanksgiving meal for homeless or impoverished people. Why not sign up to do some advance work or to serve food on the big day? You’ll be doing something good for the community and will meet other volunteers with the same sensibilities. And even if you don’t make a love connection, the experience will ensure you don’t take your own good fortune for granted.
‘Tis the season.
Plan a Jingle Bells, Single Belles party for your uninvolved friends. In addition to bringing a toy or cash donation for a charity, each guest must bring another single person. This way, you expand your dating pool while getting into the spirit of the season.
Of course, the most convenient way to meet singles with your interests is from your computer! Check out your local dating sites and start searching for someone to share the holidays with.
LINKS TO ONLINE DATING SITES
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